Would you be intimate with your baby mama? Netizens share their thoughts

• Following a social media user's question about being intimate with their baby mama, a heated debate was sparked, with many sharing their opinions and experiences 
• The conversation revealed the emotional challenges and complexities of co-parenting, including blurred lines, familiarity, and the importance of boundaries
• Many users offered warnings and cautionary advice, emphasizing maintaining boundaries and avoiding potential pitfalls in co-parenting relationships

An intriguing discussion has emerged on X (formerly Twitter), centred around the sensitive topic of sexual relationships with one’s baby mama.

 This conversation was ignited by a user, @amerix, who posed a thought-provoking question:

“If you have a baby mama, do you have s*x with her? Does she ask for s*x? Especially when you go to pick your child on the weekend for bonding? Be honest.” 

The post quickly attracted a wide range of responses and opinions, showcasing the complexities surrounding intimate relationships in co-parenting situations. 

Some users asserted that being intimate with a baby mama is acceptable. 

@Oremofred shared his experience, stating,

“Yes, personally, I do have s*x with my baby mama, but not more often. It can be once in 3 months.” 

This admission led @BigHomieSleeq to ponder the motivations behind such choices, questioning,

“Is there a particular reason why? I’m sure you have a girlfriend?"

In response, @Oremofred explained,

"Detaching isn't easy at all because the kid created a strong bond." This sentiment reflects the emotional challenges many face when navigating the blurred lines of past relationships, particularly when children are involved. 

Contrasting opinions emerged, with @angie1verolina cautioning,

"No dey lie untop innocent pikin, na ur eye no fit comot for that yansh 🌚,” implying that engaging with an ex was just for selfish reasons. 

The conversation revealed a recurrent theme about the potential pitfalls of rekindling old flames. @essencebydaniel elaborated on this further:

“That’s a raw question—But one that many men are afraid to speak on. Because yes, it happens more than most will admit. You show up for your kid, and she’s suddenly dressing differently. She’s warm. Touchy. Reminiscing. Asking to ‘talk for a bit.’ You both know what’s going on. And if you’re not disciplined, it’s easy to fall back into it. Familiarity. Lust. Comfort.” 

However, @essencebydaniel also cautioned against the allure of physical intimacy, stating, “Sleeping with your baby mama again feels good in the moment, but it clouds boundaries, stirs old wounds, and confuses your purpose as a father.” 

He outlined critical reminders for men in similar situations;

“s*x isn’t proof of love, — She may want you physically, but still have no respect for you, consistency over intimacy — Your child needs a stable dad more than a horny one.Rekindling rarely works — Unless both of you have grown, it’s just recycled pain, your child watches everything — Even the stuff you think they don’t notice, and closure doesn't mean contact — Heal, forgive, but don’t reopen old doors.”

He concluded with a challenging question: “Are you showing up for your child—or for her bed? Because one leads to legacy. The other leads to cycles.” 

Adding to this perspective, @Groethsage emphasised the importance of boundaries in co-parenting, stating,

“The truth is, boundaries matter more than anything in co-parenting. It’s important to keep the focus on the child and respect each other’s space. 

“If feelings or tension linger, honest communication is key. Whatever happened in the past should stay there; don’t let it complicate the present. Your child deserves a healthy environment, free from drama or blurred lines.”

Others echoed similar warnings against potential pitfalls. @MwathaNganga bluntly remarked, “Having s*x with your baby mama will be your second mistake, and it will cost you dearly; the first mistake was having a baby with her. Men, remember she is your ex for a reason.” 

This sentiment was reinforced by @muriu_gideon, who simply stated,

“SHE'S YOUR EX FOR A REASON,”

and @oldGslick, who reiterated,

“She’s a baby mama for a reason—I’m only there for the kid. Don’t let s*x be the trap, fellas. Stay sharp, don’t fall for it.” 

@enjoywithshubh sternly warned to prioritise controlling their urge,

“If your baby mama still controls you through s*x,

You’re not co-parenting - you’re co-trapped."

“Truth? She’s not asking for s*x - she’s checking if you’ve grown or stayed weak. Every “let’s talk inside” is a loyalty test to your future self. If she still has access to your body, She still owns your mind.” “Discipline is the real custody. Respect is earned when access is denied. You ain't just picking up a child you're showing your son how a man moves. Control your urges, king. Because the moment you fold, you forfeit leadership.”

However, @sam42469214Sam believed that it is sane to want to connect with your baby mama, stating,

“Every situation is unique. While generally speaking you should keep off, evaluate how the situationship happened. Some baby mama's are the real deal. Not just sexually but holistically speaking.” 

As the conversation goes on, netizens' reactions have been able to highlight that co-parenting arrangements involve complex emotions and relationships. Clear boundaries, open communication, and prioritising the child's well-being are essential in navigating these situations.

More reactions trail the baby mama conversation 

@whoischidi wrote: “I don’t think you should withhold s*x from your baby mama.”

@thesageofreason wrote: “Dating a baby mama? Congratulations. You’re playing co-pilot in a plane you’ll never fly. The “real” captain (the one who crashed it) still has cockpit privileges. He’s just one “can you come fix the sink?” text away from laughing at you in his socks.”

@Be_Thhe_Man wrote: “That’s a harsh but real perspective on the complexities of dating someone with a child. It’s important to understand the dynamics and boundaries involved. If you're not ready for the potential challenges, it can complicate the relationship.” 

@polycarp_omari wrote: “I don't. 

She does ask for it sometimes, but I have never fallen into the temptation...and then there's my wife who accuses me of having intercourse with baby momma she denies me s*x sometimes because of these insecurities. I have never done.” 

@His_1story wrote: “She asked me to agree to give her a second child when that time comes and promised that she will never bother me again.” 

@chiyasiri1 wrote: “As the other gender ..i really find it hard not to give in because  we are just his family .. if he is doing evrything for his children then its very naturally that thinhs will go down.. but no drama and very clear line of sight for us both.” 

@akkimanthi wrote: “No, I chose to have good relationship with my daughter and continuing to have s*x with her would have complicated my relationship with my daughter.” 

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