Unveiling Feminism’s True Essence: Myths and misconceptions in the social media era

Feminism is not a movement for hatred or divisiveness; it is a call for equity and mutual respect. By moving beyond harmful jokes and misconceptions, we can create a space where feminism is understood in its true essence, allowing it to flourish and continue its essential work. 

 In recent years, social media platforms have become battlegrounds for feminist discussions, but the narratives surrounding this essential movement are increasingly distorted. 

It is essential that we address these misrepresentations before they undermine feminism's original goals and aesthetics, which fundamentally advocate for equality and justice.

Toxic narratives on social media

One striking example comes from a social media user who posted: @gurl_tweetz, “You're a feminist, and you birth a male child. You should just know you're not a true feminist. You're just a fake pick-me. Just go and be with your fellow birds.” 

Such remarks foster a notion that feminism stands in opposition to men, promoting an environment of hostility rather than understanding. This rhetoric is not only misleading but detrimental, as it contradicts the core principles of feminism, which aim to promote equality for all genders.

Another instance can be seen in a post from the user @BlessedGirl001, who jokingly framed a scenario where a "Praise Leader" prompts a response that teases feminists. Jokes like these trivialise the legitimate struggles and achievements within the feminist movement, reducing complex discussions to mere amusement. “Praise Leader: Somebody say baba!

Feminist: Mama!”

@Jamiuxxiv further mocked the course of feminism with his post, implying as a feminist, it is wrong to have a male child. 

He joked: “One Feminist for my area don born triplets, all na boys”

Impact on future generations 

An alarming trend is emerging regarding how these narratives influence our youth. For instance, a concerned user expressed their distress @DiepreyeMoses: "Bro, feminists have corrupted my 14-year-old sister. My younger brother told her to make eba, and now she’s saying men and women are equal, questioning why he asked her to do it." 

Such comments reflect a misunderstanding of feminism, suggesting that it is turning young women against traditional roles rather than empowering them to take their place equally alongside men. 

The misconception is becoming alarming, as it has triggered lots of concerns about the ideology's direction and impact. @Maxvayshia raised another instance on X(formerly Twitter) stating; “A 5-year old boy being called a misogynist and a 19-year old girl a minor, is enough evidence that these people are not mentally stable. No jokes. You cannot be in that coven and qualify as a mentally stable person.” 

Attesting to the wrong perception of feminism, @Royzkingin posted: “Feminist of nowadays will be the ones to raise the real misogynistic men.” 

The need for responsible discourse 

Social media is a world on its own where things shared are not necessarily true, However, some who digest information and portrayals of feminism may not see the facade of the depiction, in so doing, creating misogyny and wrecking the humanistic approach of empathy for both genders.

It is time to call out those who label themselves as feminists but perpetuate extremist views. These self-proclaimed activists may misunderstand or misrepresent the true essence of feminism, instead advocating for separation rather than unity and superiority rather than equality. They often use extreme language or shocking proposals that erode the spirit of the movement.

Understanding the essence of feminism beyond myth

At its heart, feminism has historically been about advocating for women's rights and creating a balanced platform for their voices. It seeks to dismantle patriarchal structures that have marginalised women for centuries. 

Originally, feminism emerged as a response to the unequal treatment of women, aiming for a society where both genders could coexist with equal dignity and rights.

The term "feminism” might evoke images of women striving for supremacy over men, citing its onomatopoeic feature. However, this notion is fundamentally flawed. Feminism is not about establishing dominance but rather about forging equality. 

In examining biblical narratives, we see that woman was created as a companion to man, signifying equality. The belief that one gender is superior has roots in historical interpretations and the evolution of societal structures rather than any inherent truth.

The true meaning of Feminism

Feminism challenges the perception that women are merely subordinate to men in various roles, whether at home or in society. It stands against the stereotype that equates a woman's value to her ability to fulfil domestic duties or be sexually pleasing. Instead, feminism asserts that both men and women can share responsibilities, whether in the home or workplace, without falling into restrictive gender roles.

A true feminist recognises the importance of partnership in a relationship, understanding that submission does not equate to subservience. Submission can occur within the context of mutual respect and shared decision-making. It advocates for a world where individuals are free to pursue roles that align with their passions and talents, irrespective of gender.

An appeal for restoration

To combat the growing misconceptions of feminism as a movement driven by hatred, we must reclaim the narrative and emphasise its true purpose: the quest for equality and justice for all. Feminism does not seek to elevate one gender over another but strives to advocate for fairness, inclusivity, and understanding.

Feminists recognise the plight of all children, regardless of gender, and strive to create a safe and equitable society for them. Instead of perpetuating divisive stereotypes, we should engage in meaningful dialogues that foster empathy and solidarity among all individuals.

The views expressed in this article are those of the author and not necessarily of the organisation TheRadar

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